That’s what it’s like to keep a resentment, drinking poison and hoping for someone else to die. Kind of stupid isn’t it?
An Orientalopinion is that if your’re likely to cultivate a resentment, you might as well dig two graves. One for the other person and the other for your own.
I had a really dear friend that killed himself over a resentment to his father. At least I think that it was a resentment. Why else would he have placed his fathers chair atop his father’s desk and knelt down looking at it to die of an overdose?
The 4th step in the twelve step process consists of a searching a moral inventory of ourselves. What this does is allow us to set down on paper ever person, place or thing that you’re angry with.
What the heck is carried out with this list? Well, one will then discuss this with a sponsor and discover what is the underlying belief that we hold onto this anger. When we understand the problem along with the reason, then we can easily begin clearing out the problems.
It is said that about 80% of most illness is due to tension. Several the actual threads of tension are rage and anxiety. Anger in direction of activities in our past and anxiety that a number of our activities might be identified.
Probably the greatest things that I have ever completed was to take a moment and compose a letter to my father concerning precisely why he needed the AA program. I outlined everything he had ‘done to me’. It then changed from that to the actions that he had taken and in what way that i had responded to them. It went from passing the buck to him for the issues that I’ve encountered to getting accountability for my decisions.
It was a 10 page letter.
Once I got finished, I read the letter and chucked it away. He did not need to discover all of that rubbish. It was not his stuff, it was mine.
So, clear away your own resentments and give up consuming the poison.
Life is as good as I allow it to be.
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